Can farting save your life and relationship?
Me: Why are you sitting naked on the couch watching TV?
Him: Because I can.
What can I say to that? It's a very sensible answer. My favorite is when he farts right next to me and I say, “Really?”
Him: I am saving your life.
Me: How so?
Him: There have been medical studies that show farting wards off cancer.
Me: Eyes him suspiciously.
Him: It’s a thing, look it up.
So here we are, 23 years past the happily ever after. The kids are gone, and so are the veils of modesty. But how much is too much familiarity? Should you hold something back? Close the door when you go #2? Where is the line?
I will tell you this much, I spent the first 20 years of our marriage trying to make sure I held in my stomach while we cuddled in bed, and it almost destroyed us. Hiding the comfortable you is detrimental to your relationship. It speaks of not trusting your partner. It says if they see something of you that is too terrible, they will leave. It builds walls. Your partner will internalize your response and assume it’s them you find fault with, not that you are trying to hide your own faults.
Don’t get caught in this trap. Privacy is one thing, but make sure you are not hiding the real you in the process. Go ahead and fart in front of each other. It’s okay. It creates trust. It's your little secret. Something you would never do in front of anyone else, but him.
Of course, I am not saying you must lay everything bare for you marriage to survive. For example, to answer my earlier question, I like the door closed. I am just saying this, let some of it go and you will be happier and stronger in the end.